In this article, you will find:

  • How to Survive Depression After a Breakup
  • Things You Shouldn’t Do After He Left You
  • What to Do After He Left You
  • How to Increase Your Chances of Getting Your Husband Back

There are a lot of unexpected situations in our lives! Bad things can happen to good people, just like when there is cheating in a marriage.

It can seem like everything was okay just yesterday. Of course, couples have conflicts. Who doesn’t have them in a relationship? But then all of the sudden, he mentions another woman and has now left you. You are alone with the pain now. You don’t know how to live through this.

This is a tough situation. When a husband decides to leave a family after many big conflicts, a wife needs to be ready for this. Sometimes, a wife can be ready for him leaving if she already knows about his cheating. It doesn’t make it feel better, but at least the wife knows about the threat.

Suddenly, it becomes very painful and hurts a great deal. Most women have become depressed, but a strong woman can analyze her case and find the opportunity.

The best option is to get him back from the other woman.

Most women never know how to do this and make a lot of mistakes.

How can a wife avoid making mistakes and fix a marriage?

How To Survive Depression After A Breakup

That’s it. He left. Maybe he said that he loved the other woman and doesn’t love you anymore. How could he leave after so many years of marriage? He swore to be with you, and now he’s not. First comes jealousy, then comes feeling guilty, anger, and pain. What should a wife do with these feelings? If she does nothing, she will suffer too much.

Jealousy is a common emotion in such cases. You have lost your husband because of another woman. How should you react to this? Of course, you’re angry. Feeling guilty is one of the most destructive things in life. You won’t be able to help anyone if you blame yourself. This pain can either destroy you, or you can use it to improve your life. Which way will you choose?

You didn’t know how to build a happy marriage, but now, you can try to fix it. Instead of blaming, you’ll be able to focus on ways to make yourself better and more attractive to him, and other men.

He can only see advantages in the mistress now. He’s forgotten about his wife’s advantages. A man needs more time to realize this in order to start missing his wife. He’ll start to see many disadvantages in the other woman.

A wife can always become the best lover to her husband. On the other hand, a mistress can rarely become a good wife. This is a much more difficult task.

You shouldn’t attack him or try to make him feel bad about his decision. Don’t push him. Don’t beg him for anything. If you do this, you will look too needy for him. A man doesn’t feel an attraction to a needy woman.

Men like women who respect themselves. If you are calm and positive in a conversation with him, he will start thinking about you. The less you contact and speak to him – the more he’ll think about and miss you.

Please watch this video, before you continue reading:

Things You Shouldn’t Do After He Left You

When your husband leaves you, Don’t blame or punish yourself. Everyone can make that mistake. You didn’t know how to save your marriage, this is not your fault, but it’s your responsibility to make yourself happy, more confident, and attractive.

It’s better to handle your pain. Pay more attention to self-improvement.

If your husband sees you being needy, crying, begging, and unsatisfied, he won’t regret his behavior. This means you have to prepare yourself to be more attractive using the right attitude and handling your suffering.

Don’t call or try to speak to the other woman. If a wife tries to fight with the mistress, it won’t make her more attractive to her husband. A husband won’t start loving his wife more when he knows about fighting. He will want to run away from such a woman. It’ll be more difficult to get him back after this.

Drinking alcohol is also a bad idea. This doesn’t help to solve these problems. If a wife drinks alcohol, she’ll be capable of doing a lot of stupid things. The hangover will not help to feel better, but it can make you feel worse. This is one way to be less attractive, less confident, and to have low self-esteem.

You’ll have to take control over your emotions and stop destructive patterns if you want to get your loved one back.

What To Do After He Left You

  1. Try to find out the reasons your husband left you. You can write down the reasons for your last 10 conflicts. What did he tell you he didn’t like during those conflicts? What didn’t he like in you? Why was he unsatisfied in your relationship? Maybe he didn’t feel support or understanding from you. Men want to feel valuable in a relationship. They like compliments and appreciation for their help and behavior. He was very happy at the beginning of your relationship. A wife gave him positive emotions and made him happy. Your husband didn’t feel the same emotions as in the beginning and now he needs someone who can make him feel like that again. Write down all possible reasons, it’ll help you to analyze and fix them. Knowledge is potential power.
  2. Once you’ve found the reasons, you’ll be able to create a plan on how to handle them. Don’t tell yourself that you know the problems and you will fix them after you get your husband. Most women make this mistake. If you know the problems, this is good, but not good enough. If you really want to have a happy marriage, you’ll have to work on your issues as soon as possible. Don’t even think you’ll be able to do this later. Your pain is fuel for positive changes. Use it to create your own way to a happy marriage and life. Most people change nothing. They just try to get their spouse back and hope for a happy relationship. Hoping doesn’t help you. You need a plan for creating a happy marriage and not only getting him back.
  3. Put away the stuff that can remind you of him. You don’t need to see his tools, photos, and clothes. Don’t send these things to him, men don’t like such behavior. If he needs something, he will come to you. Take this as an opportunity to show him your new image.

How to Increase Your Chances of Getting Your Husband Back

  1. For now, you need a break in order to work on yourself. You both need time to try and change. If you do not actually change in the way you should, he’ll know that he will come back to the same woman and to the same relationship he was unhappy with and tried to avoid in the first place. This is something he does not want.
  1. Work on your self-esteem. If you don’t feel valuable and attractive, why should he? Bad things can happen to anybody. If you lost faith in yourself, it’ll be difficult to be happy and get your spouse back. Make sure to use this technique, especially when the other woman intensifies her attempts to keep your man.
  1. Speak to water. Go to any body of water, such as a spring, river, stream, or just turn on the water in the bathroom. This has to be running water, not a still body of water like a lake, pond, or a pool. Sit down and tell the water everything you think about the mistress – all of the words that come to mind, like what kind of a bitch you think she is. Get rid of all of the hatred and negativity and give it to the water. The water will remove everything from you and take it far away, breaking it against rocks and sand. You can say something like, “I hate her because she’s taken, my man!” Don’t be ashamed of what you are saying. We can’t give you all of the possible options due to ethical concerns.
  1. Go out! Spend more time in public places, meet new men. Go out with your friends to interesting events. Don’t just sit at home.
  1. To get him back you will need to show your new and attractive image, and convince him that the negatives that destroyed your relationship before are gone. However, it’s not enough to just tell him about it. You will need to know how to influence him!

37 thoughts on “My Husband Left Me for Another Woman and I Want Him Back

  1. My husband left me for other woman but now he want to fix our marriage but the woman is a problem, she didnt want him to go near me & she is so manipulative, what should i do please help

    1. Go out with your husband on something interesting to you and him.

  2. Me and my ex had been together for 10 years. I stayed with him even I already knew then that he has another woman. We have a one year old son together. The woman claims that their relationship was already a year but we only broke up officially last September. The woman moved in with him. Now I’m getting hot and cold treatment from my ex. There are times that he acted sweet and there are times he acted so distant. I tried not to show any emotions because I don’t want him to think that I’m still waiting for him. Some common friends are telling me that we still have a chance. Do we still have a chance?

    1. Hello, Kristine!
      You still have a chance, but you need to pay attention to improve yourself

  3. hi, my husband and i are married for not even 2 years. we needed to move in to his mom place and then the problem started that we almost stopt our sex life because of no privacy, last week i found out he is cheating on me and we had a big fight. he told me there is nothing to fix, he loves this other woman (who is 16 years younger than him)… i dont wanna loose him/us, he is my everything!!! you think i have chances to get him back? he ignores me mostly and is on his phone 24/7 texting with her, i dont get a chance to get his attention… i am so lost… but i love him so much that i will try everything!!!

    1. Hello, Anaid.
      Yes, you have a chance to get him back, but you need a good plan. You need to influence his emotions.

      1. My and my husband have been for 2 years. He decided to leave me from another woman for 77 days then decided to call me to work our marriage then he left again. Because his mother came into town and he just switched up on me. I love and miss him so much. We were fine until his momma came into town. What can I do to get him back?

        1. Hello, Tiffany!
          What were the reasons he left you? Why he was unhappy?

  4. My partner of 10 years has just left me for his best friends wife (who was also a great friend of mine) he had a thing with her 3 years ago and it has been an on off thing since then. I have clarified it was a lot more off but in the last 4/5 weeks it got more serious now he has left our house and gone to be with her. Right now they are living in this bubble neither have anywhere to live together long term they are staying at family members house who is on holiday at the moment. But I don’t think the love bubble will last as she has 4 kids who so she can’t just keep going off.

    He’s told me he loves her, he still loves me but it’s a different kind of love. And he’s said he needs to try it with her to see what happens. I really really just want to fight hard for our relationship though.

    I know the reason it happened and why our relationship broke down and I have wrote him a list of the things I am going to change.

    Do you think they are really in love or is this just infatuation? Will it last? And should I hold on to the hope I can get him back?

    1. A man can miss his wife after he leaves her. Yes, you can get him back.
      Do you think they are really in love or is this just infatuation? – Probably, another woman is a replacement for your relationship. He missed the emotions you gave him in the beginning. That`s why he started a relationship with her. If you change yourself and become more attractive to him, you`ll increase your chances to get him back.

  5. My husband filed for divorce a few months after my daughter was murdered. He has hate for me because he had to give me 800 a month in alimony, 5000 out of his bank account and his truck that was pd off. He has joint custody of my 12 year old son. I tried to make him take me back but he said I had to give him his money and stuff back. He bought a beautiful home and still talks to me but I found out he has been taking my son to dinner with a married woman who he claims is a friend

  6. Please please help me!!
    My husband of 3 years but together 17 years with 2 boys had left me. I new he was having an affair, it was so obvious he sent msgs to me sometimes instead of her. He kept telling me i am parinode and jelous. Yes i was but that’s because i new what he was doing! He left and told me he doesn’t love me anymore but still insists its all in my head. I found condoms in his work shorts and lots more things, i know him inside out and i know this is not in my head. I love him more than i could ever explain plz help me what can i do to get him back. He was such a family man i don’t know him anymore. He says this had happened because of me, i had a very bad codiene addiction for 5 years, he helped me through tge detox but then i relapsed and tgat was it he washed his hands with me understandably.. i started to tale them again to make myself feel numb because i couldn’t cope with tge way i was feeling, i wad lossing my mind because i new what he was up to but he would not admit it to me. It sounds like an excuse but its the truth. I in a very dark lonely place i don’t have friends and he said that’s because i am do horrible to everyone. I accused a old friend of being with him but i really do think its her who hr is cheating on me with. I can’t eat i wake up crying go to sleep crying im so petrified i have lost him for good this time. Plz be honest and tell me what u really Think about my situation. Thank u kindly x

    1. You need counseling for becoming in a good positive emotional state. After you have become a woman who respects and loves herself, you`ll have a chance to get him back. You can`t get him back if you look desperate and needy in his eyes.

  7. Hi my husband for 9 years left me and son we been married for 2 years him n my best friend got really really close i knew this was gonna happen because i could feel it he told me it wasn’t anything like that then he told me i love u but im not in love with you while my love was dieing for you my feelings for her grew stronger so im sorry but i wanna try this with her because i will always wonder what it would be like with her because they have a connection that we dont have and he dont want it with me i love him so much it hurts so bad because it seems like he dont care it didn’t take long for them to get together thats what hurts because he moved fast.. And hes happy he changing his ways for her i wished he did that with me i dont think hes ever coming back home

  8. My husband and I have been together for 13 years. 15 months ago I found out he was having an affair. He went to work over seas and met her she is very young. She had no idea he was married and when we both found out about each other we were both shocked. My husband acted like we had the best marriage ever. All he said to me was our marriage was amazing but we had no passion. Months later we still remained friends but it seemed as it was starting to hit him more and more. So we talked and he said he still loves me and thinks about coming home all the time but he is scared. I sent him divorce papers he wouldn’t sign them. I asked him to please sign them as I can not move on until I am divorced. His gf messaged me and I messaged her a long very mean message, which at the time I never should have, she proceed to call me a lier so I showed her prof how he said he didn’t love her and still loves me ect. Then she sent me naked pics of them together and videos and showed me how happy they are. They go on trips all around the world ect. I felt so stupid that I actually believed my husband. When he found out we spoke he is now very angry at me ( not her) said that I pressured him into saying things like he loves me , he thinks about coming home all the time. He wants nothing to do with me . That I bully him all the time to get the answers I want. When really all I wanted was for him to be honest. Now he is making me feel horrible . So obviously he was lying the whole time and he was in love with her. Because now he is attacking me saying he never contacts me it is always me . saying he only loves me as the mother of his kids… so now my marriage is over but I don’t know why he wouldn’t just give me the divorce so we could all be happy . Why he has to lead me on? Why is he now turning it all around to be my fault? I know he is in mid life crisis but all he had to do was be honest.

    1. Hello, Nicole
      I think it`s his personality. He likes to lie and manipulate people. He loves himself.

  9. Hi my husband of 30 years left me for a younger former colleague of his 2 weeks ago. He has been in a relationship with her for 2 years and neither my 3 children nor I had any idea that he was unhappy and looking elsewhere. He was always a devoted, loving husband for our whole marriage even the 2 years he was having an affair. He keeps telling me now that he’s not sure what he wants, however, he continues to stay with her. I have returned to our faith and I feel like I need to try and save what we had for 30 years. He knows I continue to love him and he has told me he loves me and still has feelings for me. He says he loves her and she loves him but he’s not sure if she is going to make him happy long term either. He says he’s had a void in his life for several years and kept searching for things to fill it, it began with material things, thinking this was going to make him feel better. None of those things worked and he says she was making him happy. I’ve been trying to give him the attention he said he wasn’t getting from me over the past few years. He traveled 3-4 nights every week for his job for the past 7 years but it was something we decided was going to work for our family on a short term basis until our children were finished with college. Our youngest graduated in May, her grad party was June 9 and he left June 12. He didn’t even give us a chance to think about our time together now. He says when he call while he was away I was short with him and seemed uninterested in his life. From my perspective I was distracted or stressed taking care of our home, a sick dog, father and a son who has struggled with addiction issues for the past several years. It was never intentional which I realize now I was doing. I text or email now asking how his day was or send him a pic of the kids or just a goodnight text. He has been responsive to the communicating but still continues to stay with the other woman. Am I trying to save something that just isn’t saveable?

    1. Hello, Kim
      You have a chance to get him back, but you need other tools to influence his emotions.

  10. My husband moved out 2 weeks ago saying he’s not happy I don’t listen to him I don’t understand how he’s feelings I put my family in the middle of our problems that I always talk badly about him. He has a place he rented he says he doesn’t love me anymore he wants to try and live his life alone I married him in Cuba brought him to Canada we have been married 5 years together for 6. Right before he left I caught him cheating talking with a girl and I think that’s what pushed him to leave so fast. Meanwhile we booked a trip to Cuba last month supposed to leave in a few weeks. He’s not going he’s blocked my whole family and friends off Facebook he’s conpletely erased me like I do not exist for 6 years. The week before he left he Would call me to say he loves me etc. I’m in serious denial and want him back but he’s made it clear we will never get back together. I’m not doing separation papers in hopes we can work things out. I cried to him asked him to please work this out reminded him of all our history but I feel like that’s begging owhat do I do?

  11. We got married at 16. Now we are 30 with 3 boys and a baby girl on the way. He started to want to travel often alone and one day I told him enough. He said then I will pack my things and leave. And I packed them for him and he was surprised but he left. Now a month later he tells me he has a new partner. But he still wants to be in his kids lives and at evere appt with me. Is it really over? Do I need to move on now?

    1. Hello, Bella!
      I think you can get him back if you want.

  12. My husband left almost 3 weeks ago for his other woman he has been seeing for 4 years now. We have been together 11 years. I want him back but unsure if it is possible. He says he doesnt know what he wants. He says it’s a day at a time and hasn’t filed for divorce. Do I have a chnace?

  13. My husband had what was at least an emotional affair for a year, and is now living with her after I found out about it. We have 2 toddlers that he still comes to see almost any time he’s off and she isnt or has other things to do. We also spend time together doing husband/wife things and talking about what happened in our relationship. He still loves me and is very attracted to me, but Im afraid the longer he stays with the other woman, the more trapped he’ll feel and resist coming back to us.

    1. Hello, Tani!
      You will need to improve yourself and show your changes to him if you want to get him back.

      1. Hes noticing the changes and things are improving between us, but he still seems to want to give that relationship a chance.
        I honestly feel like hes still in love with me, yet feels he at least needs to give the other relationship a chance, but get discouraged whenever it seems hes trying to impress or please her.
        I know I CAN be the better option, but I still worry.

        1. After improving yourself you`ll be able to use jealous if he can`t make a decision. There can be a lot of circumstances, but in most cases like yours, women can use jealous for getting their husbands back.

  14. Hi my husband and I have been together for 8 years and married for 3. We have 2 small children. In July he told me that he didn’t want to be married anymore and he wanted a separation. Reasons for leaving were he felt tied down with a wife and kids and wanted freedom to go out(were both very young) and had problems with me in our marriage. We were still seeing each other a lot and many times he said he would come back home but never fully committed. I just found out that he has been seeing somebody that he used to work with and when I first found out he said he was sorry and made a mistake and will end it. But a few days later he said he was done with me. Yesterday he told me that he really likes her and loves me and is stuck trying to choose. He of course loves me but is really enjoying his time with her because it’s easy and there’s no problems. She’s also a party animal that’s 10 years older than him

    1. Hello, Nicole.
      How can you improve yourself for becoming more attractive to him?

  15. Hi please help me.
    My husband and I had been together for almost four years. He love me so much he care and trust me but his parents are against us because of domination from last year he want to have a child but this year on April I conceive he is happy with that but soon his mom got serious illness and she make him to agree to leave me otherwise she will not get well. Soon after I am three months pregnant he left me he block my call my whatapp and I found out that he had a new gf. But it seem that new relationship doesn’t last long he told me to abort a child but I didn’t agree and he start calling me again he ask for money and I still give him but now he left me again. I cry I want him back he block me again I told him and questions him why he left me but he said that I love him mom more than me and now he had a new gf who love him more than anything. He told me that he hate me and doesn’t want to see me.
    Please help me how to overcome this life on this situation I miss him and love him. Will he understand my feelings will he comes back to me oneday, will i have to wait for him?????

  16. My husband of 6 years (been together 13.5 years) filed for divorce a month ago, and is staying with his other woman until he can move into his new rental (any day now). We get along one day and then fight the next. Anytime she starts drama with me, he takes her side. He says he doesn’t love me anymore and that he never wants our marriage to work. He says he’s done. He says she is his future and I’m his past. But he s still willing to do family dinners once or twice a week the next 3 months until our divorce is final. Do I still have hope?

    1. Hello, Jessie
      I think you have a chance to get him back. You need to change his expectations about the future with you.

  17. My husband of 7 years (together 10) left me 2 months ago for another woman he has been having an affair with for a little over a year and a half whom he got pregnant a year ago(gross, I know). Him and I have 2 kids together. He’s very up and down with me. Has told me he’s wanted to come home a lot and that he cries. I’ve told him I’m willing and wanting to take it all on. That I want our marriage to work. He was very distant and cold when he first left. Now he’s more open and cries because memories of us flood his mind. He sounds confused to me. I’m wanting to fight for my marriage, do I have a chance??

    1. Hello, Kathy.
      Yes, you have a chance.
      What were the reasons he left you for another woman? Maybe he was unhappy in your marriage for some reason.
      You need to make a list of these things and improve yourself.
      He has mixed expectations about being with you. That`s why he can`t make a decision.

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